how to problem solve

You’ve probably heard of “weight training” to get into physical shape. “Social Skills Training” helps get your feelings and behavior in shape as well. Social Skills Training gives you an edge so that you can take on any kind of challenge that may come up in social situations. These skills are made up of three areas:

problem solving

A “problem” is something that bothers you, and every problem has something that you can do to help make it better. You’re already taking care of your medical problem by seeing among the best doctors and nurses. Dealing with teachers, peers, and other people may present other problems, but again, you CAN do something about them.

• Be positive and optimistic that things will improve. It may take a lot of work, but you will be able to do it.
  
• Identify what’s bothering you. Sometimes it may be simple, other times complicated.
  
• Define the parts of the problem. Each individual part may need a little different reaction. Brainstorm all the different things you could do to cope with the parts of the problem.
  
• Evaluate each option to solve the problem, and chose the best thing for you to do.
  
• See what happens when you try your new solution. If it worked, great. If it made things worse, try another option.

teasing and rumors

• Be prepared for comments and don’t be shocked if you hear something dumb being said.
  
• Answer directly and to the point without getting angry.
  
• If teasing persists, get some help from friends or teachers.

assertiveness

• Let parents, friends, classmates and teachers know what you need.
  
• Stand up for your rights. If you feel that a teacher is being unreasonable, get help to discuss the situation and find possible solutions.

Thanks to Ernest Katz, Ph.D., Julia Challinor, RN, Ph.D., MA. ED., and Mitch Golant, Ph.D. for their permission to use and adapt the above information.